終於可以放鬆一下. 即興地和菁一同吃飯, 逛街. 漫無目的地逛商店.
我向來是一個每次購物都有目的的人. 即是還沒有購物以先, 就必定要先有目標是要買甚麼. 幾年前, 有次和C一同買東西, 她十分驚訝於, 我能在二十分鐘內選購一對鞋一條裙. 我每次購物, 正常情況下都不會超越半小時, 必定能在極短時間內狩獵到我想要的東西.
但和女孩子一起度過時間, 就不能用這種模式進行. 對女孩子來說, 兩個或多個人一起逛街, 可以是一個建立關係, 溝通的過程. 或許應當說, 女孩子只要粘在一起, 無論在幹甚麼, 目的都是為了建立關係, 溝通和了解. 這就是所謂的Quality time. 逛街購物的過程, 能了解對方的價值觀, 審美的眼光, 個人喜好等. 而且試身的過程還是讚美對方的一個機會. 從前我不懂這個道理, 後來人成長了, 慢慢明白多些.
還開始懂得為自己製造多些逛街購物的理由. 例如為了製造多些逛首飾店時的話題, 特地打了耳洞. 對了, 我內裏還沒有變啊, 仍是做甚麼都要有理由的. 有次與K談到這個, 她很不屑地說: “貪靚就是貪靚, 還用那麼多理由粉飾幹麼?" 我只有向著她傻笑的份兒.
放慢自己處事的步調, 學習與人協調, 很寶貴的一課.
Finally I got a chance to relax. I had dinner with F and we went window shopping.
I was a target-oriented shopper. I always got a target before I went to shop. Once upon a time I shopped with C and she was surprised that I chose and bought one pair of shoes and one skirt in twenty minutes. I never spent more than half of an hour every time I shopped. I can hunt what I want to get for a short time.
However, when it comes that I am to spend time with girls, I can’t apply my hunting mode anymore. That’s a matter of building relationship, not just for shopping. That’s so-called Quality time. We can know each other more while shopping. I can know one’s values, aesthetic, what she like. That’s a precious time to express appreciation when girls put on some clothes and trying. I didn’t know these but I understand more now.
I started to create more reasons for myself to go window shopping. I had my earlobe pierced in order to start more topics when I go to window shopping at jewelry stores with girls. I am still reason-oriented and my mind is not changed! I talked with K about this and she said that’s I care about my appearance and she saw me.
Release my steps and learn how to synchronize with others. That’s an important lesson.